Every manager holds them - it's standard practice. But are they really connecting or just ticking off a box on the agenda? These meetings are supposed to be more than a corporate routine. They should feel personal, open, and firstly human. Like a safe space where feedback flows freely.

I never bring an agenda. It's not a corporate briefing; just two humans having a conversation. I might end up talking more sometimes (even tho' I don't want to), but I'm always there to listen. To connect. It's a space to speak openly, without filters. And trust? It's built here, in these non-scripted moments.

Confidentiality is key. Unless it's something extreme, what's said in these one-on-ones stays in the room. I've kept that rule for years. These meetings aren't just about work but about building a relationship. Talking code stuff, Netflix series, vacation plans - whatever comes up. I'm there to listen.

Forget the scripts. Drop the formality, stay real, and let the conversation flow naturally.

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