The physical basis of memory is the connections between neurons in the brain. When we learn something new, the relations between the neurons involved in that learning become stronger. This strengthening of connections is called synaptic plasticity. The stronger the connections between neurons, the more likely the memory will be stored and retrieved.

Up to here, it’s easy.

But how do we retrieve the information and think about our memories as time flies?

Nostalgia, the bittersweet longing for the past, has an uncanny capability to evoke cherished memories and emotions.

We often find ourselves fondly reminiscing about times gone by, recalling experiences, people, and places. We also tend to paint our stories with ‘better’ colors, but that’s for another time.

How much of our nostalgia is a genuine representation of the past, and how much is a mirage created by our minds?

The *Charm * of Nostalgia

Nostalgia, a sentimental yearning for the past, is a powerful force influencing our perceptions and emotions. It provides a comforting sense of continuity, connecting our present selves with the people we used to be and the experiences we once had. Nostalgia is often triggered by familiar scents, music, or places, transporting us back to relive past moments. We remember the better parts of our childhood, college, army service, etc. Sometimes, it helps us feel empowered to make certain decisions. In other cases, it’s ‘feel good.’

“Amidst the mist of nostalgia, our memories dance, a delicate balance of truth and illusion, creating a tapestry of emotions that weaves through time.”

The Fallibility of Memory

Our memories could be better past records. They are subjective and malleable, shaped by our emotions, beliefs, and current mindset. Studies have shown that memory can be influenced by external factors, leading to the creation of false or incomplete recollections. Each time we recall a memory, our brain reconstructs it. With each reconstruction, small details can be altered or omitted.

In other words, we can’t trust our memories.

Here Malcolm Gladwell explains why memories are totally unreliable:

Nostalgia and the “Rosy Retrospection” Bias

One reason for embellishing nostalgic memories is the “rosy retrospection” bias, where we tend to remember past experiences more positively than they might have been. Our minds tend to focus on the pleasant aspects of the past, conveniently forgetting the hardships and challenges we faced.

In some aspects, the survivor bias keeps telling us the story and improving it.

Collective Memory and Cultural Influence

Nostalgia is a personal experience influenced by collective memory and cultural narratives. Shared cultural symbols and representations can shape our perception of the past, further blurring the lines between our individual memories and historical reality. Media, movies, and books often romanticize specific eras, contributing to our nostalgia for times we may not have personally experienced.

You find it in nations, companies, and other organizations where the ‘good old days’ were the best. However, it was far from the state now being idealized.

Embracing Nostalgia and Honoring the Present

While nostalgia can be a comforting and positive experience, it is essential to acknowledge its limitations.

Embracing our nostalgic feelings while being aware of the inherent biases can help us find a balance between appreciating the past and living in the present. Rather than solely dwelling on the past, we can use nostalgia as a guide to inform our present actions and create new memories that we’ll cherish in the future.

Being aware of the limitations of our memories is a helpful first step.

The TL;DR

Nostalgia is a complex interplay of emotions, memory, and cultural influences. While our memories may be colored by the passage of time and the rosy retrospection bias, embracing nostalgia can enrich our lives and provide a sense of connection to our past selves. Understanding the fallibility of memory allows us to appreciate the beauty of the past while cherishing the present moments that will become the nostalgia of our future.

Go have fun.